Looking for a lover for that after work slot (other slots to be explored in the future). Your place, obviously (Southampton/Romsey is home for me). Hopefully a regular arrangement as it gets better as we get to know each other's bodies and likes and I don't like spending hours online looking! Open relationship - due to wife's health - utter discretion because of job, and respect for our setup. So, I guess it's a secret affair! Mainly vanilla with an interest in exploration of bodies, fantasies and ideas. Not inexperienced - vanilla or otherwise. Ability to hold a conversation is important for a regular arrangement. You will find in me a decent, professional, highly intelligent person with an interest in other people's minds (as well, on here, as bodies). Don't get me wrong, though: this is primarily about bedroom antics but it's far better when you know the person you're reducing to a squirming mess of delight so they can look you in the eyes afterwards and kiss you. No proper photo of me until I know there's no way discretion could be compromised.

My Ideal Person Open-minded, with a natural tendency towards discretion. Age and body is trumped by personality. Ability to hold a conversation as we get to know each other and when we meet up (before, between, after... maybe even during?) is important.

If there's one thing I've learned from meeting up with people it's that you shouldn't try to make people tick boxes as people are amazing just because they are who they are.